MOTHERHOOD – REDEFINED
THE CHANGING ROLES OF THE MOTHER
Reams and reams have been written on this subject and as new mothers we have even pored over those books…….but there is something I want to share…that all these books don’t tell you and that is THAT WE MOTHERS DO NOT LIVE THE MOMENT ENOUGH. This is particularly clear to me now that the moment is gone and my SON AND DAUGHTER are all grown up. I wish I had not been in such a hurry to move on to the next job. I wish that I had treasured the doing WITH THEM more and the…. getting it done ………less.
Even today I’m not sure what worked and what didn’t…what was due to me and what was simply life. When they were small, I thought that someday they would become who they are ---- because of what I’d done !!! Now I suspect they simply grew into their true selves because they demanded in a thousand ways that I back off ……and let them be.
The books tell you so many things – to be a relaxed mother,etc, and I was always tense and way over the top. But just look at how it has all turned out. I wound up with the 2 people I like best in the whole world and it is they who have helped me to become a good human being. The books never told me that ?????
I am now determined to learn only from experts……….but it took me a while to figure out just who the experts were !!!!!!
I would now like to read out a poem which puts parenting in its right perspective. The words say it all:
“Little Eyes See a Lot”. A message every adult should read, because your children are watching you……… and doing as you do …………not as you say.